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When a Grown-Up Is Busy

Waiting is a skill, not a punishment

Play this lessonNarrated out loud. No account, works offline.

Also available in Spanish. The app stops after two lessons a day and suggests something to do away from the screen.

What it teaches

These are the lines the lesson comes back to, and the ones a child actually remembers afterwards.

Busy means their hands are full. Not their heart.

Hand on the arm. Then wait.

Some things you interrupt. Always.

They owe you the time back.

How it starts

Sometimes you go to a grown-up with something, and they are busy. And busy can feel a lot like being told no, or being told you are not important. So this one is about what busy actually means, and what to do while it is happening.

How the lesson goes

How to tell someone is busy

  1. Talking to another person
  2. Holding something hot or heavy
  3. Driving, or counting, or working

What the hand does

  1. You do not have to shout
  2. They know you are waiting
  3. Nobody has to start again

Things that fill two minutes

  1. Finish what you were already doing
  2. Get the thing you were going to ask for
  3. Count how long it actually takes

Interrupt immediately for these

  1. Blood, fire, or water
  2. Somebody is hurt or cannot breathe
  3. You feel scared or unsafe

The question at the end

When should you interrupt a grown-up straight away?

For the grown-up

Every lesson ends by handing the child something to do off the screen, and telling you what was taught so you can use the same words.

Try this today: Next time a grown-up is busy, try the hand on the arm instead of saying their name. Then ask: is now a good time?

Then: Ask your grown-up to tell you the three things you should always interrupt them for, so you both agree on the list.

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